What is holding you back?

Short answer? It is not anyone outside of you. I am not lying, I am not kidding and if you read the previous blog, you already know where I am going. On a serious note, what would you say is truly holding you back from moving forward? I want you to pause here before you continue reading and really think about what it may be. Okay ready? Think about it.

Alittle longer......

Was it a friend? Boyfriend? Husband? Kids? Drugs? Parents? Family? No no, I know what it was, pain. Pain can manifest over time through our own partnerships with what people say, do or act. We are the ones who allow it to happen, simply because there was no one to teach us otherwise. It is all worldly stuff anyways, but you get the point. You cannot say any different or deny it or else you would not be here.

Aww, a life without pain, what a dream? Imagine what it must have been like in the Garden of Eden, naked with no shame, no judgement, no pain, just you, your husband and Papa. Too bad we had to go muck it up, huh? Anyways, there is a void, a wound, trauma, PTSD and so much more, deep inside our hearts. The deep places that hurt even if someone looks at them for a millisecond. I get it girl, no matter what you do it still bleeds out onto others, then you push them away and then on to the next. A constant reminder of how you failed and how it is all your fault. Misery loves company, right? But, hear me out, what if we could stop that cycle of pain? No Ma'am, it is not impossible, or I would not be wasting breath and time writing this. I mean, "all things are possible through Christ who strengthens me"- Philippians 4:13.

So, let us say your longtime boyfriend, first love, your forever, leaves you. Do you know that heart sinking, gut wrenching feeling of, "Why?" "What did I do wrong?" "I thought he loved me?" "If this is love, then I don't want it and will be alone forever!"

Sound familiar? That is pain, the pain I am referring to. He made a wound in your heart and you poured your soul into someone who was there for a season. I am not here to say what love is, well not yet, but I will tell you that the ONLY reason why you felt that severity of pain, is due to you agreeing that you were not enough for the wrong person. However, let us dissect the situation.

How long have you been in that relationship? Why did you choose into that relationship? What were the red flags you ignored? Why did you believe you deserved that relationship? When was the first time you felt that feeling before those hurtful moments?

Now, what does God say? God is the one and true everything we need. We poured our hearts, minds and souls into a human who will always disppoint and will never meet our unrealistic expectations. We fall in love with the potiental, not what they are showing us. We fall in love with the world, which is opposite of Papa. The mind cannot serve two masters, you either serve the world or God. I am not here to shame you on your decisions, but I am here to tell you the truth. Your belief systems are holding you back. Your feelings are holding you back, and your unhealed self, is holding you back. Human relationships can be so powerful, but you can never love the other enough for the both of you. When you build relationship with Papa, those belief systems, untamed emotions and unhealed wounds start to clear up. You see more clear, your heart is open and your identity is now in Christ.

I know what you must be thinking by now, easier said than done, but I did it. He left me, over the phone and after he found his next. He only cared for himself, and that led the belief system that I was never enough. Insecurities were validated and more devastating, I ignored every single red flag hoping that one day he would see what I saw. I still pray this today, because everyone deserves the TRUE unconditional love. More about that at a later date. At A Breath of Wind, we are here to walk with you in that pain, no matter where it manifested from, and love you right where you are. It is time to step in the you that Papa made you to be. Then, praying for the day, the true love of your life, here on earth will find you and continue the journey with you. I found mine, and I pray you find yours.

May God keep you and Bless you!

Until next time, see ya:)

1 Corinthians 3:15-18

Ecclesiastes 1:15

Psalms 141:10

Psalms 141:5